Society of Single Professionals

The Society of Single Professionals is "Anything But." A truly sad "senior citizen" organization that consists of losers who are stuck in the 80's.

I have attended past and present events with this organization over the years and wanted to share my recent attendance experience.  Over the years the promoter of these singles events has used several organization names, currently it is The Society of Single Professionals,

To discuss my present experience I have to look back the past to make a point.  More than 20 years ago I attended events regularly until I met someone and had a 20+ year relationship which ended.  Meeting my long term partner had nothing to do with attending these events.

20+ years ago we all were younger and most of those currently attending events are from that age group.  I think those who would benefit most from attending now would be mid 30s - 60's.  Anyone younger would feel out of place.

I say this as when attending recently I recall the DJ playing the same old tired music from the 80's and 90's.  I found myself thinking the last time I attended the music was on cassette tape, but now it is on a modern DJ system, but the music is still stuck in time, as are the events...

Like most people I've moved on, but this organization is in my opinion in many ways stuck in the 80's and 90's.  At the bigger events they have a rehash of the same old pop psych singles advice.

The main reason I won't be back is I was astounded to see people still attending these events in the hope of finding someone who were there when I was last single over 20 years ago.  I'm sorry but these people (guys and gals) are stuck in time and in my opinion will never find anyone although they are still trying.  Frankly that shocked me.

Yes, it is possible you can go and find someone, I recall a very stale party long ago where no one was of interest except for one outstanding gal, a guy near the door got to her first and they just clicked.  OK it is something we all dream about, and can happen, it is just not that likely.  Other than those two meeting, the party was so so at best, but for them it was life changing, so anything is possible.

I've always had better luck just meeting people, and would suggest if you want to find someone look close to home, it is very likely you will find someone nearby, you need to open yourself to the possibilities.  

If you want to attend one of these, I'd suggest the bigger events with more people and don't be afraid to approach someone if you have interest (both the guys and gals).  Most guys are delighted when a gal asks them to dance, guys don't be afraid to cross the room and ask a gal to dance.  FYI if it is at the Golden Gate Yacht Club, the GGYC is the little one down the breakwater from the St. Francis Yacht Club where you'd like to dream these events are held (but never will be), so get real when you check out the venues, most are sub par in my opinion.

I recall a past party where three outstanding women came in all stunning, the guys were crowded in the far corner and afraid to approach them.  I walked over and said, will any of you lovely ladies dance with me.  They said, at last a guy who is not afraid of women, I danced with all of them.  It broke the ice and everyone started dancing. Too often here is uncertain huddling by the guys and gals, no one is ever going to meet that way.  Some of the inducers to meet other just get in the way of meeting someone interesting in my opinion.

Best wishes to all of you to find someone special...

Hi....

I attending their Nov 30th event at the Fairmont in SF.  Happen to be in town that day and dragged one of my bay-area friends with me to check it out.  We got there a little late and met a few other women in the lobby area taking pictures.  They all were a blast!!! to say the least. Loved how the Fairmont looking for the Holidays...  

Now to the main event..

Large social area had been setup within the ballroom.  Just wish there was a little more seating but they had some nice high tables to set your drinks down while you danced and chatted.   There was a wide range of ages present which was one of the main reasons we came.  It is hard for the 40+ age group to find a club or party to meet other like minded people who want to dance and have a good time... Dont want to hang around a bar with a crowd old enough to be you child... LoL.

We had a good time dancing and drinking.  Only off experience was running into a group of women in the bathroom.  One made an off comment on my outfit.. Totally uncalled for. My friend just figured that they we being "catty" and just plain jealous.
All I can say.. If you come to an event like this.. Don't dress like you're going to a wedding or church.. I sure didnt, and had a blast!!!

Like someone earlier mentioned.  If you girls come in a group.. This will reduce your chances of meeting others.  Pair-off at minimum to meet others.  That group of girls I mentioned earlier just spent the evening by the stage obviously making fun of the others present.  They should have just stayed home!!

C-ya on NYE

xoxo
SheriB
(The one not dressed like a schoolmarm)..